“I have got my wits about me, I do know what it’s all about.” Stella and Peter met on e Harmony and got married a year ago, having both lost their long-term partners.
Peter, who was 70 at the time, recounts the nerves of starting over again after many years without sex and said: “I can remember sitting on the sofa with Stella and discussing this and saying, well, I really don’t know whether anything works any more. The internet has made finding love so much easier, but this increased access to sex is leading to increased rates of sexually transmitted infections.
Many of our respondents told us that their first marriages in the 1950s and 60s had been repressed, and if they are dating again today that they are keen to experiment and enjoy a much more empowered, adventurous relationship.
For some women, it has only been in later years that they achieved orgasm for the first time. '” Having had conventional relationships in the past, lots of people we spoke to are choosing to have relationships on different terms today.
In fact, STIs have doubled in 50-90-year-olds in the past 10 years.
Justin Gaffney is a sexual health nurse consultant and told us: “There is a degree of naivety in the older population in that they just don’t see that they are at risk of sexual infections.” In fact, older people become more anatomically susceptible to STIs as they age, and yet 64 per cent of our respondents who are either in new relationships or are dating, hadn’t sought sexual health advice.
Connie, 83, from London has just signed up for a dating site, even though she can’t work a computer.Online dating has made sex more accessible for men and women over 60.But as well as offering the possibility of greater sexual fulfilment, the internet is also throwing up new challenges and dangers.Her granddaughter Nicola is acting as both facilitator and gatekeeper and sifting those she thinks are suitable.As Nicola sends a smiley to a man called John who’s caught her grandma’s eye, Connie tells us that Nicola need not worry about her.